We have decided to go with Mark from Softlight Photography. His customer service was amazing, emails were returned immediately, he was at ease in our home (even though we sit on sheepskins on the floor) and took our PC vs. Mac comments gracefully! His work is beautiful, he has so much passion for his job and it really shows in his ability to capture great candid shots of guests. Marks lighting skills are excellent, the receptions shots (which I think are so important) were perfectly lit even though the rooms were dark.
I learned a very important thing from Mark: make sure your photographer takes pictures in RAW not JPEG.
Keep checking the gallery for engagement shots!